It is way too easy to feel like you’re not good enough, or smart enough or can’t achieve your goals. And, in a way we’ve been programmed to dream big, but not too big from a young age. Anyone that knows me will know that I tend to go through bursts of feeling motivated and as if I can conquer anything, and the next minute doubt all my capabilities. It’s a very frustrating mix to have, and I never know what is going to trigger any of those feelings.
I’m currently going through a career ‘slump’, and yes I know I’m only 23 and I probably haven’t even started my career yet, but I still don’t know exactly what I want to do so searching for that job seems almost impossible. I love to write, and I always will but for now I know that won’t pay all of my bills, so it’s settling for something else.
I’ve been lucky enough to mostly have constant employment, but it hasn’t made the search any easier. The one thing I’m struggling with the most is when I look pesky job descriptions. How do you know really know if you have the strong set of skills they want? And if you lack in some areas listed, is there really a shot for you to get that job? I find myself doubting whether I’m good enough to even apply for any of these jobs.
I know, the more I apply for the better and law of averages has to play out at some point, but when you’re 50 applications in, the self-doubt can engulf you pretty easily. It’s always lovely to have supportive friends and family that will constantly tell you how talented you are, how they know I’ll find that dream job and to never give up, but I’ve learnt that those comments can never sink in unless they’re coming from yourself.
This is when the power of affirmations come in. Now, I know some people may think that the following is a little fruity and probably not for them, and that may be, but don’t knock it unless you’ve tried it.
The lovely ladies, who are also part of the Arbonne business like myself, are constantly talking about their affirmations and doing ‘miracle mornings’ to get them in the right frame of mind for the rest of the day. In order to actually feel the effects of these affirmations you really need to do more than, ‘you’re great’, in the mirror every now and again.
What can self-affirmations do?
‘Self-affirmation can protect against the damaging effects of stress on problem-solving performance. Understanding that self-affirmation — the process of identifying and focusing on one’s most important values — boosts stressed individuals’ problem-solving abilities will help guide future research and the development of educational interventions’ (Psychology today, 2013)
With that in mind, here are some of my favourite affirmations to repeat to myself when I feel low and stressed, or to prevent myself from entering a state of sadness:
Mistakes and setbacks are stepping stones to my success because I learn from them.
Today I am successful. Tomorrow I will be successful. Every day I am successful.
I live in the present and am confident of the future.
I fully accept myself and know that I am worthy of great things in life.
I am surrounded by people who encourage and support healthy choices.
I am fully present in all of my relationships
I accept and embrace all experiences, even unpleasant ones
It matters little what others say. What matters is how I react and what I believe.
I am solution minded. Any problem that comes up in life is solvable.
My mind is full of gratitude for my lovely and wonderful life
I’m working towards creating a morning routine where I can practice my affirmations, do some light meditation and yoga and start my morning without the buzzing of my phone or the immediate stresses of life. If you need a reminder that you are special, beautiful and will have the life you desire, then have a look into self-affirmations and books like ‘the Universe has got your back’ which you can get free with a months trial on Audible!
It’s definitely taking me time to feel comfortable with a self-affirmation routine, but if you do truly surround yourself with positive people it feels impossible to do anything else! x